Okay, it’s been a few weeks since I’ve posted on the topic of gay high school boys participating on their schools’ wrestling teams. You’d be surprised how many comments I receive on this topic, from wrestlers gay and straight, from coaches and parents. Most I don’t choose to post, as they only say what’s already been said before: Are gay boys wrestling? Should they be? Is it appropriate for a gay boy to have that sort of contact with straight boys?
This afternoon I received a comment from a high school sophomore, Drew, who lives somewhere in Kansas, where he didn’t say. (Probably with good reason.) Drew said:
“Yeah, Martin, there are gay guys wrestling in high school. I know this because I am one who does. Of course, nobody at my school knows I’m gay. My parents don’t even know and it’s fine. I keep it to myself. This season I wasn’t the best wrestler on my team but I won a few matches. Honest, I never think about sex when I’m on the mat. I only think about wrestling and trying to win. My coach is a nice guy, but I don’t think he’d understand the gay thing. Same with my teammates. They wouldn’t understand.”
Thanks for writing, Drew.
You know, comments like Drew’s make me sad. These kids seem so lonely. But there’s nothing I can do about it, other than giving them a place they can read about others like themselves.
My dinner with friends in town has been cancelled, so I’m re-heating chili left over from this past weekend’s dinner party. I’m drinking a beer and getting ready to edit the chapter I wrote this morning, for my new novel. Maybe I’ll visit the beach 90 minutes from now and watch sunset.
Enjoy your Wednesday night, all.