It’s always nice when I receive a positive comment from a reader or fan of this site. Recently, I heard from Ian, a ballet dancer from Texas. He said the following:
“I am a 19 year old college student and dancer. I noticed you posted once about ballet dancers, and I have to say that there are actually many straight guys in ballet – I even know some married ones. I have noticed, however, that straight male dancers feel the need to demonstrate their masculinity as much as possible. Conversely, a lot of gay guys in ballet are more on the flamboyant side. I’m gay, obviously, but I don’t really fit into either category. I’m very shy, and I wouldn’t necessarily call myself masculine or feminine. Because of the alternately hypermasculine and flamboyant personalities I often find among male dancers, I sometimes struggle to fit in. Perhaps it’s the combination of physicality and artistry that makes for this lacuna between personalities, or the stereotypes associated with ballet. I’m not sure. Thankfully, most straight men in ballet are at least pretty accepting of gays. Also, male dancers eat a ton of food, and girls do too these days. Anyway, I just wanted to share my thoughts on gay men in ballet, and I love your site!”
I have responded to Ian privately, but I wanted to share his comment with all of you because, honestly, I love it when I hear from young gay men who express themselves articulately. Have a great Thursday, everyone.