It’s no secret what two gay men do when they hit the bedroom. Somebody gets poked, and when you meet a gay couple sometimes you look at one of the two and you tell yourself, “He’s got to be the bottom.” But often you are wrong.
Look, there are many “bottoms” who are very masculine, even macho. Getting penetrated by your lover doesn’t mean you’re feminine. On the contrary, it means you allow yourself to be pleasured in the way you prefer. That’s all, that’s it.
I wrote a story titled Fuck Me … Please. It appears in my anthology titled Sebastian Inlet. In the story a guy named Forrest, a hyper-masculine ex-Marine, loses his butt cherry to Tyler, a Navy submariner, in a San Francisco hotel room. During their encounter, Tyler says this about bottoming:
“When you’re growing up, people tell you only girls get fucked, that a guy who gets screwed is a sissy, a fag, but it’s not true. Having the balls to let another man pump
your ass ’til you come—and until he comes—takes a lot of courage. Understand?”
I woke this morning to the sound of the fronds on my coconut palms thrashing about. A stiff and very cold wind is blowing from the northeast; it’s chilly outside. The first thing I did was turn on the heat, and then I brewed some coffee. It’s too cold outside to walk on the beach, and I guess I won’t be able to ride my bike today for exercise. But I shouldn’t complain, I understand conditions in Chicago this morning are dreadful.
My boyfriend returns home today from Minnesota. I’ll pick him up at the airport around one PM, and we’ll spend a pleasant afternoon and evening, here at the house. I’m going to roast a chicken with rice stuffing, and maybe we’ll play a round of Scrabble by the fireplace. Doesn’t that sound nice?
Have a wonderful Thursday, everyone. Stay warm. 🙂